Wednesday, January 2, 2013

How To Win Your Ex Back The Right Way

How To Win Your Ex Back The Right Way

Truth is there are many ways that you can learn how to win your ex back. Some of them will be ways that have no chance of working. Being overly pushy about it is one way that some people will advocate, but that way is one that is doomed to failure in the overwhelming majority of cases.

There are also some ways that will have some chance of working, but will restart the relationship in a mode that is far too unhealthy for it to actually be able to last. For example, some people have been known to cave in to pressure and verbal abuse on a level far exceeding the pushiness mentioned above. In a very small minority of people, this type of strategy can work in reigniting a relationship. However, those relationships are often abusive in one direction or another. That is not what you want for the person that you want to be the love of your life.

That leaves the ways that have the best chance of working. In reality, these ways are obvious once you remove the natural instincts that most people have when it comes to this particular topic. Things like honesty, genuine affection for your ex and the ability to leave them alone when they really need space from you are things that are obvious once you drop the ego, pride and stubbornness in order to realize the truth of what is going on here.

The truth of what is going on is this. Your ex dumped you. That means that they voluntarily chose to end their association with you. What you are trying to do is get them to not only voluntarily reverse that decision, but also voluntarily take it all the way back into the relationship they had beforehand. For more people, that takes a huge shift in their thinking. This is why pushiness is not going to work. Slowly turning their opinion by changing the things about yourself that made them break up with you in the first place will work, but you have to do it right.

If you want to know how to win your ex back the right way, this is it (see more on the magic of making up). There are two people that you need to look at. The first is the person that you were when your ex fell in love with you. The second is the person that you were when your ex dumped you. If you can figure out what changed between these two people, you will have a recipe for reversal that can get you to look attractive once again to your ex-lover.

Your goal here is to make them look at you with interest once more. Unless they look at you with interest, you are not going to be able to get them to come back to you. They need to be interested and attracted, just like they were the first time they fell in love with you. This strategy has the best chance of making you look like those things to your former partner once again.